"Sexual abuse of boys remains enshrouded in misconceptions, stigma, and lack of understanding," reflects Eva Díaz Bethencourt, Specialist and Human Rights Lawyer at Protect Children. Today, new risks emerge online, where boys are disproportionately targeted for financial sexual extortion.
Abuse often begins early and follows different patterns for boys
Testimonies of male survivors revealed that over a half were first subjected to sexual violence before the age of 10. The types of abuse differed from those reported by girls, with nude genital touching being most common. Some survivors also reported being coerced into abuse or feeling trapped to protect others: " I preferred to offer myself in exchange for him leaving my brother alone." In the majority of cases, the perpetrators were adult men known to the child, but boys were more likely than girls to have been abused by women or by someone under the age of 18.
Strong shame and fear delay boys from speaking out
Two in five male respondents have never disclosed the abuse. Among those who did, over a half waited more than a decade. Many described shame and fear as major barriers that prevented them from telling anyone: "being subjected to sexual violence as a child has been a shame greater than life itself". Boys most often confided in a friend rather than family members or professionals. Disclosure rarely led to support or investigation, leaving survivors without help or justice.
Abuse leaves lasting effects on boys’ lives
Nearly four in five men who experienced child sexual abuse reported enduring lasting negative effects, most commonly depression, anxiety, and difficulties in relationships. Male survivors were more likely to report suicide attempts and substance abuse. Often left without help, they resorted to self-blame, social withdrawal, or ignoring the abuse entirely.
"How difficult it is for a man to feel broken, or to even recognize that we are broken." - Gender-sensitive support is critical to help male survivors
"The findings highlight the need for services, institutions, and public campaigns to understand the barriers faced by boys. Inclusive approaches are essential so that all survivors can access justice and healing", states Nina Vaaranen-Valkonen, Executive Director at Protect Children.
About the report
The findings are published in Protect Children’s report: "Our Voice Male Survivors: Experiences of Victims and Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse and Exploitation". The report has been researched and written by Protect Children in collaboration with Lea Kamitz and Samantha Lundrigan from the International Policing and Public Protection Research Institute, part of Anglia Ruskin University.
